{"id":724,"date":"2020-04-21T13:15:22","date_gmt":"2020-04-21T18:15:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/agri-search.com\/?p=724"},"modified":"2020-04-22T13:33:53","modified_gmt":"2020-04-22T18:33:53","slug":"understanding-the-value-of-your-love-language","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/agri-search.com\/understanding-the-value-of-your-love-language\/","title":{"rendered":"Understanding the Value of Your Love Language"},"content":{"rendered":"

For over twenty years as an agricultural recruiter, I have studied the similarities between a successful marriage and a successful employment situation.\u00a0 The parallels are fascinating.\u00a0 In both types of relationships, getting to know the other person, maintaining excellent communication, and understanding each other\u2019s strengths and weaknesses all play a key role.\u00a0 Listening, understanding where the other person is coming from, and dealing with frustrations and disagreements that arise are also critical at both work and at home with your spouse, or even for your children.<\/p>\n

In the employment world, we often use tools that help break down a person\u2019s personality profile.\u00a0 From that assessment, we can learn to better understand how to communicate successfully with someone.\u00a0 We can learn their personality strengths and weaknesses as well as their highly developed and not so developed skills.\u00a0 We can learn what to ask them to do and what is probably best to avoid asking of them. \u00a0Even their true motivators, or their \u201cwhy\u201d, can be discovered quite clearly from a seemingly simple 30-minute assessment.<\/p>\n

On the marriage and personal relationship side, Dr. Gary Chapman, through his many years of marriage counseling, has developed a fascinating way of defining exactly what motivates an individual.\u00a0 His book, \u201cThe Five Love Languages\u201d is a powerful tool to help engaged or married couples get to know what makes each other tick, or as he says, \u201cwhat fills up your love tank.\u201d\u00a0 However, these same languages, or factors, can be very useful and quite impacting in understanding young children, teenagers, or literally any other person with whom you interact on a regular basis.\u00a0 The five \u201clove languages\u201d are:<\/p>\n

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  1. Words of Affirmation<\/li>\n
  2. Acts of Service<\/li>\n
  3. Gifts<\/li>\n
  4. Quality Time<\/li>\n
  5. Physical Touch<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Dr. Chapman shares that every man, woman and child have a primary love language that we must understand and learn to speak with them if we want them to feel valued and loved. \u00a0For example, if a person\u2019s primary love language is Words of Affirmation, you can literally kill their spirit or give them life by the words you say, or do not say, to them.\u00a0 For example, if in the workplace every time a sales professional reaches a sales goal, their manager says nothing but instead mails them a gift card to their favorite store, they probably do not get too excited about it.\u00a0 But a personal conversation or phone call with words of heartfelt thanks and appreciation for a job well done will mean the world to that person and motivate them to strive for continued excellence.<\/p>\n

    Likewise, for a person whose love language is Acts of Service, actions truly speak louder than words.\u00a0 Constantly telling them what a great job they are doing, how much you appreciate them, or even giving them gifts of appreciation will ring hollow in their ears.\u00a0 But offering to help clean up after a meal or a meeting, washing their vehicle, helping them with a difficult task, or pitching in and doing something for them will be greatly appreciated.<\/p>\n

    Or consider what happens when you come home from a business trip and bring your grandkids new toys and trinkets, but their response is less than thrilled?\u00a0 Most likely, their primary love language is not Gifts.\u00a0 It may well be Quality Time, and therefore all they really want is for you to give them your undivided attention by spending some uninterrupted one on one time with them.<\/p>\n

    Whether thinking about the impact of \u201cThe Five Love Languages\u201d in the workplace, a marriage, or in dealing with children, it is valuable to learn what makes a person feel respected, appreciated, and loved.\u00a0 Simply start with the attitude, \u201cI want to enrich and enhance the lives of the people around me.\u201d\u00a0 Consider challenging your family, your co-workers you interact with regularly, or a group of friends to join you in taking \u201cThe Five Love Languages Quiz\u201d.\u00a0 Then, you can discuss it together and get to know what makes the people you know feel the most valued.\u00a0 Having a better understanding of each other will strengthen your relationships and perhaps resolve tensions that have built up over time.<\/p>\n

    To get started, click on Dr. Gary Chapman\u2019s website, https:\/\/www.5lovelanguages.com\/<\/a> and then click on \u201cQuizzes\u201d.\u00a0 You may also listen to Dr. Chapman through a variety of broadcast topics found at: https:\/\/radio.focusonthefamily.ca\/guests\/gary-chapman<\/a>.\u00a0 Utilizing these tools can positively impact your workplace and your family for many years to come.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    For over twenty years as an agricultural recruiter, I have studied the similarities between a successful marriage and a successful employment situation.\u00a0 The parallels are fascinating.\u00a0 In both types of relationships, getting to know the other person, maintaining excellent communication, and understanding each other\u2019s strengths and weaknesses all play a key role.\u00a0 Listening, understanding where […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-724","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blog"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nUnderstanding the Value of Your Love Language - AGRI-SEARCH Agricultural Recruiters<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/agri-search.com\/understanding-the-value-of-your-love-language\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Understanding the Value of Your Love Language - 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